There is a question I often ask when I am speaking to a
group of people:
“If money were your lover…would you still be having sex?”
The responses to this question – physical and verbal – offer
an enormous insight into what is happening in the person’s financial life.
The responses have ranged from a somewhat joking, “No…I’ve
got a headache” to the extreme reaction of a client who, when I posed the
question, immediately went into a defensive posture.
Their shoulders shot up under their ears…their arms were
crossed tightly across their chest and their brow was deeply furrowed.
“Oh no…” the voice was constrained and I could hear the pain
in their words.
This was the most dramatic demonstration of the kind of
dysfunctional relationship many people have with their money.
When I probed more deeply into this person’s money history,
they confessed to feeling fear about money and wanting to run away from it. They didn’t want to have anything to do with
it.
I then posed the question, “If money was a person, and you
treated them the way you have just reacted, do you think they would want to
stay and spend time with you?”
“No…I guess not”, was the quiet answer.
Whether you realize it or not, you have a relationship with
your money and, if you don’t have enough of it in your life, there’s a very
good chance that you have created a dysfunctional relationship with it.
So I ask my clients what their relationship with money is
like…
….do they cross the street and
hurry to get away from it?
…do they have a nodding
acquaintance with it?
…are they happy to see it?
…are they actively welcoming and
inviting more money into their lives?
What about you?
What is your relationship with your money?
Today, I challenge you to look within – with open eyes, mind
and heart – and see what the truth of your relationship with money truly is.
Are you uncomfortable just thinking about it?
Where in your body do you feel this discomfort?
What if you allowed yourself to have a different kind of
relationship with money?
One that didn’t entail struggle or hardship? One that didn’t mean you had to put off doing
what you really feel called to do in favor of getting a regular pay cheque every
two weeks?
What if you could change your relationship to that of a
partnership?
What if you and money could be co-creators of the life you
really want to live?
How would things be different for you if you started living
from that belief?
You have the power to change this extremely important
relationship from one of disconnect to one of joy, excitement, purpose and
abundance.
For the next week,
try thinking of your money in this new way.
Be grateful for every bit of money that you receive – no matter how
small – and celebrate its arrival in your life!
I urge my clients to keep a Money Calendar so they can record everything
that comes to them.
If you would like a copy of the Money Calendar that I use,
please email me at Patti@AwesomeWealthyWoman.com
with your name and email address and write “Money Calendar” in the subject
line.
If connecting with me for assistance in shifting your money relationship
feels right for you, please call me at 705.881.1846 or 1.844.881.1846 or email
me at Patti@AwesomeWealthyWoman.com
and I would be delighted to speak with you personally.
“Be thankful for what
you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have,
you’ll never have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
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